Here is a list to things which, if you give up, will make your life a lot easier and much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress, and suffering. And instead of letting them go and allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happy, we cling on to them. Let me encourage you to start today and give up those things that no longer serve any useful purpose in your life. Here they are: 

Give up your need to always be right. There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong, wanting to always be right, even at the risk of damaging relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain for us and others. It’s just not worth it. Whoever you feel the urgent need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question, “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”

Give up your need for control. Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you, such as situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, co-workers, or just strangers you meet on the street, just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will begin to see how much better that will make you feel. 

Give up on blame. Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving away the power to control your life and start taking responsibility  for it. 

Give up complaining. Give up your constant need to complain about everything that makes you unhappy, irritable, and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy and no situation can make you said, made, or miserable unless you allow it. It’s not the situation or person that triggers bad feelings in you, but how you choose to view it or them. 

Give up the past. The past may be better or worse than the present and the future can be frightening. But you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you may be now longing for and dreaming about was ignored by you when it was the present. Stop looking back. Live in the present and enjoy it. After all, life is a journey, not a destination. Dream about the future and with God’s help, prepare yourself for it, but always live in the present. That’s where the blessings are! 

Bro. Ken